Recently I was in the shopping mall and I happened to hear a conversation between some people discussing their dislike for this black girl’s hairstyle who had just previously walked by. One of them called the girl’s hairstyle “ghetto”, then followed up by saying “I hate when black girls put all them colors in their hair”. It led me to ask this question, what is ghetto really? Because I have seen similar hairstyles with Caucasian women never labeled as ghetto. The word “ghetto” has a negative stigma attached to it and it seems like ghetto has become synonymous for “Black People”.
What determines whether something is Ghetto or not? Why do some people consider one ghetto and not the other? Is being crafty with the supplies available to me ghetto? Is being creative while black unacceptable? Does the price of something determine whether you should consider it ghetto or not? Or maybe I’m wrong…. Please do share your thoughts….
You’re exactly right. Just like when Black people improvise, it’s ghetto, but let a middle-to-upper class white person do it, it’s a lifehack, or being thrifty, or economical, or thinking out of the box, or brilliant, or whatever.
I really wish black people would quit complaining about how white people have labeled them. You have done this to yourselves. Now before you flip shit on me, just read through this and know that I am not implying that all black people are the same, but those of you whom are educated and live ‘normal’ lives have become victims of your own enthicity: you guys get mad and all irritated when people refer to you as ghetto and whatnot, look at the stupid ‘gangster’ fucks that have created the stereotype you are grouped with. Be mad at your own color. Don’t get mad at us because we assume you are all deadbeat lazy people. And newsflash: these girls being compared in the above photos, the white girls that do their hair like that are like 14. Very rarely do you see grown Caucasian women with weird colors and weave in and if you do-you best believe we get shit for it too.Yet there are these black old ladies with hot pink highlights. What do you expect? GROW UP. You and you alone are to blame for the judgements and stereotypes. When are you all going to run out of shit to complain about?!
You think that me, a semi-atractive Caucasian female with lots of tattoos and piercings doesn’t get insulted and grouped with stereotypes and called names? You’re wrong, because i get thrown into the ‘trashy’ group of trailer inhabitants that are drunk and lazy when in fact I am a functioning member of society with a going on 3 year old career and only 21 years old. I’m the one that pays your welfare checks so shut the fuck up and get over it. If you like the way your hair is isn’t that all that matters? I think you all just want shit to complain about so people feel sorry for you because you’re the ‘minority’. Wrong again. Caucasian people are the minority of the world.
Lol yo shut up
everything you said contradicted itself, you’re not making any sense
black folks can never complain w/o some white chick jumping in with their damn white opinions and tears…
go away. shoo!
YO BUT LOOK AT HER EXPLANATION THO.
film about a group of men getting into shenanigans= “comedy”
film about a group of women getting into shenanigans= “chick flick”
film about a friendship between two men= “buddy flick”
film about a friendship between two women= “chick flick”
Remember that one time that David Boreanaz was dropped from Bones? Yeah me neither.
Well that’s awful.
The last sentence is so crucial to understanding what we work for. And it certainly isn’t limited to just women. What is important to any group that is viewed as trivial is also viewed as trivial.
This, all of this. And everyone assumes “fan girls” act the same, that they aren’t perhaps fan-girling quietly in their corners or little circles of friends or something. It’s a bunch of gender role oriented bullshit.
At this point, being a “fangirl” means being loud, obnoxious, and highly opinionated. Being a fanboy doesn’t hold quite as much of a negative connotation. It’s a very harmful double standard because, if a female is a fan of anything, her opinions will suddenly be of lesser value. If a boy is a fan of anything, surely he is more likely to be heard.
it is never just a show
it is never just a book
it is never just a movie
it is never just a comic
The way we treat characters in media reflects the ideas we have about real people, and then our media goes on to enforce how we treat those real people.
I am all for enjoying the media I consume (and contrary to how it must look, I do enjoy a lot of media) but I am critical of everything I enjoy. No media exists in a vacuum. No media does not shadow the social system that constructed it.
Next sewn I’m getting color and I’m wearing my bambo earrings all day. Y’all white girls with your dip dyes can stay pressed! -_-
“Television and magazines are often regarded as factors that influence girls to be thinner that leads to young girls to many eating disorders. There are hundreds of studies that draw conclusions between media like television and magazines and poor self-esteem or body image.
Television makes children, especially white boys, believe that they can achieve things easily whereas black kids are often told that they may not achieve much in life.
‘Young black boys are getting the opposite message: that there is not lots of good things that you can aspire to. If we think about those kinds of messages, that’s what’s responsible for the impact,’ Nicole Martins said.”
You don’t say?
WAT! NO WAI!!!
No but really, considering just how big a formative influence television can be, and how media in general serves as such a major agent of socialization, and how PoC and women, and anyone that deviates from the White-male-cisgendered- heterosexual mold, really, is left in the dust, it’s sad that articles like this are still necessary to explain the division and inequality.
Run on sentence ahoy.
It’s nothing new, but it never fails to make me upset.
Good read y’all, check it out.
“Is venture capital a sexist industry?” -David Kirkpatrick, moderating the all-male investing panel at TechCrunch Disrupt
…to the all-male panel
I want to live in a world where little girls are not pinkified, but where little girls who like pink are not punished for it, either. We can certainly talk about the social pressures surrounding gender roles, and the concerns that people have when they see girls and young women who appear to be forced into performances of femininity by the society around them, but let’s stop acting like they have no agency and free will. Let’s stop acting like women who choose to be feminine are somehow colluders, betraying the movement, bamboozled into thinking that they want to be feminine. Let’s stop denying women their own autonomy by telling them that their expressions of femininity are bad and wrong.
Antifemininity is misogynist. What you are saying when you engage in this type of rhetoric is that you think things traditionally associated with women are wrong. Which is misogynist. By telling feminine women that they don’t belong in the feminist movement, you are reinforcing the idea that to be feminine and a woman is wrong, that women who want to be taken seriously need to be more masculine, because most people view gender presentation in binary ways. This rewards the ‘one of the boys’ type rhetoric I encounter all over the place from self-avowed feminists who seem to think that bashing on women is a good way to prove how serious they are when it comes to caring about women and bringing men into the feminist movement."
Get Your Anti-Femininity Out Of My Feminism by S.E. Smit (via thechocolatebrigade)
Yup. Women tend to get punished no matter what they do, whether they are cis or trans, simply for being women. Ciswoman likes “masculine” things or acts in a “masculine” manner? Must be a “bitch” and/or “dyke” (or often “gosh, she’s so much better than other girls” which is a misogynist sentiment and backhanded compliment at best) - all of which may be followed by violence. Transwoman likes “masculine” things or acts in a “masculine” manner? “That’s no woman at all!” - and violence ensues. Ciswoman likes “feminine” things or acts in a “feminine” manner? Either “now there’s a real lady” (ugh) or “that poor thing, she doesn’t even realize her own oppression” (nngh) or “she must be a vapid little pushover” ooor “she must be showing off her body because she wants me to touch it” - cue violence. Transwoman acts “feminine” or likes “feminine” things? “Sorry, sweetie, you just don’t make a proper woman according to my cis-sexist standard” or “good, keep doing that, and don’t eat large steaks anymore or else how am I supposed to buy that you’re really a lady” and, of course, the physically violent response.
And good luck if you’re brown on top of being some manner of woman.